I Gave Up Porn — And Now My Marriage Is Better Than Ever

Like many men, I thought I was keeping my pornography sexual addiction a dirty little secret. But no matter how clever I thought I was, my wife started picking up on signs:  how I seemed checked out in our relationship, how I frequently had trouble “finishing” during sex, and how we had become like roommates despite being married for many …

Porn In The Classroom?

Think back to the time when you first started using pornography. How old were you? What got you started? Perhaps it was finding magazines in your own home or at a friend or family member’s home? If you’re younger, maybe it was accidentally finding “stuff” online during a web search. Regardless of your age or the times you grew up …

Adam’s Essence: Dialoging with Your Essential Nature

In my profession as a counselor for sexually compulsive behavior, I talk to people about their addiction and what they can do about it. For example we look at how to effectively utilize the incredibly useful methods we have: Red Light Guy, Beard Test, Blue Sky and High Heels. And these methods really work. If none of these methods are …

Your Internal Guide

Your capacity to deal with any difficulty is strengthened by developing a deeper awareness of your internal guide. We all have one. If you are dealing with an addiction like porn addiction or sex addiction, or  learning to work with your partner’s addictive tendencies, your internal guide will help lead you through hard times. Here a client speaks to his …

5 Reasons I DON’T Want To Look At Porn Today

When viewing porn is at the center of your life, it might be hard to imagine that you might eventually find reasons to NOT want to look at porn. I recently received the following list of reasons from one of my clients and was quite impressed. So I thought I’d share them with you. George 1. The first reason that …

I’m A New Person Now — Freedom From Sex Addiction

When you get free from porn addiction or sex addiction, you can transform your life. One of our clients writes about the new possibilities his life now holds… This is my journey of a new life as a new person. None of this could have been seen, felt or heard if I hadn’t hit the lowest point in my life. …

What Our Clients Have to Say

Sex addiction and porn addiction was literally ruining my life. Traditional talk therapy didn’t work, nothing did until I met former sex addict George Collins with Compulsion Solutions. He saved my life and my marriage.

A Porn Addict Talks to “Orgasm”

For a sex or porn addict, an orgasm takes on a meaning, an importance, a significance that gets in the way of the rest of his or her life. The natural pleasure becomes confused, even missing. In speaking/writing to this aspect of self, the desire for an orgasm, one of our clients moves closer to understanding what is actually driving his need for that one more orgasm … and where that leads.

My Decision To WIN

If you are struggling/have struggled with sex addiction (or porn addiction), you know how difficult it can be. My clients’ capacities to take a stand for themselves and choose to win continues to inspire me. I think this story will inspire you too. from one of George’s clients… For me final piece of the puzzle goes like this: all the …

For A Sex Addict Small Stumbles Can Lead To Big Falls

If you have a tendency toward compulsive or addictive behaviors, like sex addiction or porn addiction, it’s important to learn how to be vigilant and watch for small triggering situations — those seemingly almost  “innocent” temptations that you may act on, those situations that in and of themselves are not all that bad. As you know if you’ve dealt with …

Sex Addiction Does Not Have To Destroy Sexual Intimacy That Is Your Birthright

Many of the men who have issues with sex addiction or porn addiction are dealing with the destructive effects of a childhood filled with degrading emotional abuse from parents, siblings, friends, teachers. Below is an email I received from one of these men who we’ll refer to here as “Bob.” Bob has been married to “Joan” for twenty-something years and, as …

The Girl That Got Away, Well … Kind Of (A Client Dialog)

My work with one of my clients has involved his dreams. This guy has a lot of them. And, as you will see below, they’re not always easy. My instruction to him has been to dialogue with them. Go after them. This way he can shed light on the mental and emotional parts that produce sexually compulsive behavior. Like the characters or actors in …

Porn Addiction Masquerading As A Game—Chatroulette

Type the address. Load web cam. Drop pants. And click go. That was the norm for me on a site known as chatroulette. I discovered the site in the most innocuous way. A few guys were on it at work. I went on it with them and we started joking, talking, socializing, and trolling with the random people on the …

I AM REALLY GOOD AT HEART by a Compulsion Solutions Client

I’ve always been very moved by Anne Frank. One of her writings really caught me back in high school when I read her diary and it has stuck with me in one way or another all of my life. “I still believe, in spite of everything, that people are really good at heart.” I knew inherently that I was a …

Sex Addiction Shame Guarantee

I teach clients who are suffering from sex addiction and porn addiction how to shed light on the mental and emotional parts of themselves that produce sexually compulsive behavior. Similar to the characters or actors in a story or movie, every one of us has  immature complexes or sub-personalities within ourselves that don’t seem to be able to “grow up.”  One way …

THE SHAME LOOK From My Father

My road to becoming a sex addict started when I was about 8 or 9 years old in my backyard pool after an sexual “incident” that changed my life. I had a pool and would occasionally have friends over. A few of us would get naked and swim around. It all seemed pretty harmless until one day my friend, who came …

Sex Addict Finds Acceptance

I teach clients suffering from sex addiction and porn addiction how to shed light on the mental and emotional parts of themselves that produce sexually compulsive behavior. Similar to the characters or actors in a story or movie, every one of us has these immature complexes or sub-personalities within ourselves might never grow up if we don’t SEE them, then manipulate them into …