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Can’t Escape Your Porn Addiction? 5 Ways to Break Out of the Rut.

It’s easy to feel trapped when you’re addicted to porn. A few hours or days of freedom ends with falling back into old habits, often leading to feelings of shame and self-loathing. But you don’t have to feel trapped forever. There is always, always hope to break free from addiction. Here are just five ways to get started: 1. Get …

Setting Up A Dialogue Practice

In my practice, if I received a dollar for each time I heard from my clients, “I was too busy to write this week,” I would be a wealthy man. Like many things that are actually good for us, journaling or dialoguing often get put aside or buried by the busyness of life. Somehow putting a high priority on writing …

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Dopamine and Your Porn Addiction

There’s a lot of talk about how the dopamine receptors in your brain influence addictive behavior. Does dopamine feed addiction? What role does dopamine play when it comes to your brain and pornography? Here’s what you need to know: 1. Dopamine itself is not actually addictive. Contrary to popular belief, dopamine is not actually addictive in and of itself. “When …

Surviving an Affair

Being caught in having an affair or admitting to an infidelity blows the door right off the vehicle that is your relationship. Intense feelings of anger, fear, resentment and sadness to name a few come to the forefront like a flood. If you have gone through this or are currently going through this turmoil in your relationship then you are …

Does Admitting My Sex Addiction Make Me a Loser?

Not too long ago, I was asked the following question by one of the men I work with: “Do I have to always remind myself that I’m a loser because of my addiction?” I admit I was taken aback by this question. So much so that I feel it’s important to address it to a wider audience. If you’ve been …

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Bad porn or “ethical” porn: is there a difference?

Is there such a thing as “good porn” and “bad porn?” And are you asking from a truly ethical standpoint, or just as an excuse to wack it with less guilt? So is “good porn” a thing? Here are some thoughts to consider. “Good porn” is a tall order that may be hard to fill. For the purpose of this …

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Is it bad to watch porn?

Is it bad to watch porn? If you’re asking, I have a sneaking suspicion that you already know the answer. At the very least, many studies agree that regular exposure to porn negatively affects the sexual satisfaction between partners. But why is it bad to watch porn? Porn is everywhere. It seems like everyone is doing it. It’s almost impossible …

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Discreet Ways to Get Sex Addiction Treatment

If you are considering seeking sex addiction help, you may feel held back by feelings of embarrassment or shame. You want help, but you don’t want anyone to know that you need help. These feelings are common. Sex addiction therapists understand the sensitive nature of these struggles and make your confidentiality their highest priority. Here are some ways to start …

When Arousal Becomes Frightening

In my work with sex and porn addicts, I come across a recurring question: “What if something arouses me, but it also makes me really uncomfortable?” A lot of the guys I work with can actually feel fear in response to some things which they find arousing. They might find themselves wrestling with contradictions like “I’m a straight man, but …

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When you have a porn addiction relapse: It’s not over

If you are in the midst of a porn addiction relapse, it’s easy to end up in a negative thought spiral. You might feel like a failure. You might feel worthless. You might feel like giving up. But while these feelings are common, that does not make them true. Sex addiction recovery is a process. It’s not 100% all at …

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How to Satisfy Your Sex Addiction Symptoms

If you are seeking sex addiction recovery, your symptoms can feel overwhelming. How do you channel that energy and desire in a way that keeps you on-track? Sex addiction recovery will never be easy, but it is always possible. Here are a few brass-tacks ways to satisfy your symptoms and stay on the road to recovery. Get a Healthy Dopamine …

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Hairy palms: Real porn addiction side effects

Are there legit side effects to porn addictions? While you won’t actually get hairy palms from masturbating too much, (nor will you go blind), porn addiction’s side effects are real. But addiction looks different than occasional use, and addiction requires help to overcome. Here are some signs and symptoms that point toward porn addictions: “Sometimes I feel powerless to resist …

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How to Stop Watching Porn before You Start

So you want to know how to stop watching porn. It’s not easy, but you know what will make it easier? Keep yourself out of porn’s way as much as possible. A key way to break a porn habit is to stop the endless, sweaty cycle of clicking and fapping before it starts. But to do that, you need to …

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5 Symptoms of a Sex Addict

The symptoms of sex addicts might surprise you. Sex addicts are not people who loves sex, or has lots of sex, or have a powerful sex drive. The symptoms of addiction are completely different and have very little to do with the actual enjoyment of sex. Here are five symptoms to look out for. Five Symptoms of Sex Addicts 1. …

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Bad Advice on How to Quit Porn

If you’ve decided to quit porn, there is a wealth of advice out there about how to make it stick. Some of this advice is great, but some of it is, frankly, is hot garbage. Here are a few of the absolute worst ways to stop watching porn. Go It Alone Your pride might be telling you that you can …

What is a Sex Addict?

What is a sex addict? Well, it’s complicated. Generally, a sex addict is defined as someone who cannot control their sexual compulsive behavior to a degree that it interferes with their everyday life and relationships. But perhaps it would be better to define what a sex addict is not. Three Things Sex Addicts Are Not 1. A sex addict is …

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How to Stop Porn Addiction: The First 5 Steps

If you are wondering how to stop porn addiction, you may be feeling trapped. Sex addictions are powerful, and overcoming it can feel completely overwhelming. But you are not alone. Addiction can be overcome, and you can start making healthy choices right now. Here’s how to get started: 1. Realize That You Need Help The absolute first step to overcoming …

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Why is Porn Addicting?

Is porn addicting? Like many other substances and behaviors that cause a dopamine spike in the brain — yes. Our brains are designed to seek the chemical rewards of pleasure, which is what makes it so easy to become addicted to anything that gives us a high-level dopamine hit, whether that be porn, sex, drugs, sugar, or smoking a cigarette. …

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Are There Porn Addiction Side Effects?

Are there porn addiction side effects? If so, what are they? Can they negatively affect my life? Maybe you’re a habitual porn user who doesn’t like to use the word “addiction.” Everyone looks at porn, right? It’s everywhere and sometimes nearly impossible to avoid. But unfortunately, there are side effects to porn addictions, and they can be more insidious than …