Sex Addiction or Porn Addiction: You Are Not Alone

A key deterrent in your getting help in recovery from compulsive sexual behavior is the feeling that you’re alone in this battle. This belief leads to further isolation, further procrastination in getting help, and further suffering. If you’ve already been down this road then you know these words, this system so to speak, rings true and usually ends up in the …

Pedophile Proponents – A Dangerously Delusional Belief System

As a therapist for many years, I’ve worked with men and women who were sexually molested as children, as well as with the wives of men who were addicted to various types of porn. Consequently, on reading an article advocating the decriminalization of pedophilia I felt physically sick to my stomach. (You can Google articles on the decriminalization of pedophilia. …

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How to Get Help for Sex Addiction

If you are wondering how to get help for sex addiction, you are probably feeling very alone. But you aren’t. Sex addiction is more common than you might think, and it is absolutely a treatable illness. Being a sex addict doesn’t make you a bad person, but it does mean you need help to overcome it. Help is out there, …

Jerry Sandusky: The Sins Of The Father Visited Upon The Son

It’s been a while since the name “Sandusky” has dominated the news, but it popped back up recently when it was revealed that Jeffrey Sandusky, son of the disgraced Penn State assistant coach, was arrested for similarly troubling behavior. I wish I could say I was surprised to learn about this, but in my business it is unfortunately very common …

Terry Crews: If He Can Admit His Porn Addictions, So Can You!

One of the biggest foes faced by sufferers of porn addiction is the media. The very idea that someone could be addicted to porn is easily and often dismissed in news stories, op-eds, and even joking tweets. This kind of rhetoric is damaging in many ways, not the least of which being that it prevents addicts from coming forward and …

Doing Dumb Things On My Smartphone

It may be difficult to think of a time when we were sans smartphones…or even a plain cell phone for that matter. Technological advances in personal electronics, particularly the mobile phone, have come fast and furiously. In the early 2000’s, capabilities such as email, fax and web browsing became mainstays. In 2007, Apple’s iPhone came along and changed the marketplace …

How Dangerous Is Your Porn Addiction?

Addiction can kill. Anyone who has ever watched a family member or friend succumbs to alcoholism, or overdose on drugs can tell you that. Yet, when talking about porn addiction, many people see it as less serious and less deadly. Certainly, there is more inherent risk in sharing needles than there is in opening a porn website in the privacy …

Power and Sex Addiction: What Hollywood Scandals Are Telling Us

With the flood of sexual harassment and abuse stories coming out of Hollywood recently, you might think the phone of a sex and porn addiction counselor would be ringing off the hook as hundreds of people call in to seek help. Personally, I’d like to see that happening, because it would be a sign that these men are waking up …

Self-Criticism vs Self-Compassion

Examining your sexual compulsive behavior, you may find that negative feelings often drive the need to act out sexually. Kind of makes sense, doesn’t it? If you’re feeling lousy it’s a natural reaction to search for other things to cope or deal with those feelings so you can opt to escape and feel better—even if it’s just for the short …