Self-Criticism vs Self-Compassion

Examining your sexual compulsive behavior, you may find that negative feelings often drive the need to act out sexually. Kind of makes sense, doesn’t it? If you’re feeling lousy it’s a natural reaction to search for other things to cope or deal with those feelings so you can opt to escape and feel better—even if it’s just for the short …

Coping With Your First Holiday Alone

  Despite everyone’s best efforts, it is a hard fact of life that some relationships simply can’t survive a sex or porn addiction. Even after second chances, extensive counseling and a real commitment to making it work, sometimes one partner’s addiction is simply too much for the relationship to bear – and it ends. Very few women are able to …

The Sex Addiction Debate: Yes, It’s Real

I think there is a fundamental misunderstanding when it comes to sex addiction and porn addiction. Yes, drugs and alcohol are highly addictive substances. They ruin lives and drive people to terrible depths in search of their next fix – but so does sex. To a certain extent, sex may be an even harder habit to break than some other …

Standing on the Precipice – Ending a Relationship During the Holidays

It’s a hard fact of relationship counseling that the ideal outcome isn’t always “and they lived happily ever after.” Unfortunately, this can be especially true if sex or porn addiction is a factor when the addicted partner is not able to make the necessary changes. Sometimes, the best thing for a couple to do is go their separate ways, for …

Celebrity Addiction Rehab: Not The Only Way To Do It

You may have read some news stories about celebrities checking into exclusive rehab centers to work on their sex addiction or porn addiction.  Certainly, this is fine. I’m sure that despite the media’s focus on things like horseback riding and croquet at some of these exclusive treatment centers, there actually is a lot of intense therapy happening inside the facility. …

Feelings Are NOT Facts

We often talk to our clients about investigating the feelings underneath the sexual acting out behavior. Something must be driving the need to act out, right? Often these are called triggers —thoughts, feelings, and situations that push us to seek out an escape via compulsive sexual behavior. We come to believe that our feelings and thoughts are real — in …

Here’s Why The Porn Industry Went After Ken Bone

If you watched the second Presidential Debate, you probably noticed a man in a red sweater by the name of Ken Bone. He is a worker at a coal manufacturing plant, and he had a question about energy conservation. His pleasant manner immediately endeared him to audiences all across the country, and almost as soon as the debates were over, …

How Dealing With a Partner’s Addiction Changes You

We talk a lot about the healing process that women undergo in order to cope with their partner’s addiction. However, there’s one thing I haven’t mentioned yet, and that’s the fact that this journey you’re on will change you. There is so much to process and take in, so many feelings and questions to parse out, and it’s somewhere in …

When Porn Victimizes Women – The TSA Scandal

Recently, there was a story in the news about a TSA agent who was suspended from his job after he was observed using his phone to take up-skirt videos of unsuspecting women in the airport where he worked. After his supervisors were tipped off to this behavior, they observed him secretly recording women as he stood behind and beneath them …

Your Problem Is An Opportunity

Your failure is a chance to conquer something in your life by better understanding you mind and how your life works. This will alter everything about your life.

Anthony Weiner: Sex Addiction Needs More than Talk Therapy

  Anthony Weiner has found himself back in the spotlight in recent days, thanks to yet another sexting scandal. A memory refresher: Anthony Weiner was a congressman who first found himself in trouble back in 2011, when a picture of a man in his underwear was sent out from his Twitter account. After a few days of evading the press, …

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Here’s Why Ozzy Needs Such Intense Sex Addiction Therapy

  On a recent episode of The Talk, Sharon Osbourne spoke openly about her husband Ozzy’s sex addiction. Not only did she confirm that he is grappling with sexually compulsive behavior, but she mentioned an intense rehab therapy regimen he is following. During his tours, he will be seeing therapists in an outpatient capacity for three months, but when his …

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