Confessions of a Porn Zombie

“Poooooooooorrrrrrn . . . . . Pooooorrrrrrrrrrrrrrnnnn ….. Porrrnnnnnnnn ….” . . . I grunted as my lifeless corpse limped closer to what it needed most. Shuffling, slow, and primal I fixed my gaze on the “food” glowing off my computer screen, . . . calling me . . . I called back, “poooorrrrrrrnnnn.”  Now sweating, my heart beating faster …

What “Leaving Neverland” Teaches Us About the Importance of Therapy

If you’ve turned on the news recently, or even checked out any social media or gossip websites, you’ve likely seen dozens of reactions – some good, some bad – to the shocking HBO documentary Leaving Neverland. In this series, two men, Wade Robson and James Safechuck recount their alleged victimization by pop star Michael Jackson back when these men were …

Lessons From Dorian Gray

In Oscar Wilde’s, The Picture of Dorian Gray, an artist’s portrait of Dorian reflects the soul of his subject. The original portrait captures the true beauty and innocence of Dorian at that time in his life. Over the years, Gray begins to live a hedonistic lifestyle and he continues to sink ever deeper into a life of sin and corruption. …

Can Rihanna Help Wives of Sex Addicts?

Rihanna was named by Time Magazine as one of the 100 Most Influential people on the planet. She’s stated that she doesn’t want to be a role model, but … well, she’s on the list, so she’s clearly “influential.” There have been continuing reports that she may be rekindling her relationship with Chris Brown despite his well-documented physical abuse of …

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The Top Three Ways to Find Sex Addicts Therapy

Sex addicts therapy is an essential component in your journey towards freedom. No addict can break free in a vacuum. Help, counseling, and accountability are key. Here are some options to get you started. Online support from former addicts You can access support anytime, anywhere. Neulia offers Rapid Results programs that are exclusively online. Learn more about the programs offered …

Sex Addiction or Porn Addiction: You Are Not Alone

A key deterrent in your getting help in recovery from compulsive sexual behavior is the feeling that you’re alone in this battle. This belief leads to further isolation, further procrastination in getting help, and further suffering. If you’ve already been down this road then you know these words, this system so to speak, rings true and usually ends up in the …

Pedophile Proponents – A Dangerously Delusional Belief System

As a therapist for many years, I’ve worked with men and women who were sexually molested as children, as well as with the wives of men who were addicted to various types of porn. Consequently, on reading an article advocating the decriminalization of pedophilia I felt physically sick to my stomach. (You can Google articles on the decriminalization of pedophilia. …

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How to Get Help for Sex Addiction

If you are wondering how to get help for sex addiction, you are probably feeling very alone. But you aren’t. Sex addiction is more common than you might think, and it is absolutely a treatable illness. Being a sex addict doesn’t make you a bad person, but it does mean you need help to overcome it. Help is out there, …

Jerry Sandusky: The Sins Of The Father Visited Upon The Son

It’s been a while since the name “Sandusky” has dominated the news, but it popped back up recently when it was revealed that Jeffrey Sandusky, son of the disgraced Penn State assistant coach, was arrested for similarly troubling behavior. I wish I could say I was surprised to learn about this, but in my business it is unfortunately very common …

Terry Crews: If He Can Admit His Porn Addictions, So Can You!

One of the biggest foes faced by sufferers of porn addiction is the media. The very idea that someone could be addicted to porn is easily and often dismissed in news stories, op-eds, and even joking tweets. This kind of rhetoric is damaging in many ways, not the least of which being that it prevents addicts from coming forward and …

Doing Dumb Things On My Smartphone

It may be difficult to think of a time when we were sans smartphones…or even a plain cell phone for that matter. Technological advances in personal electronics, particularly the mobile phone, have come fast and furiously. In the early 2000’s, capabilities such as email, fax and web browsing became mainstays. In 2007, Apple’s iPhone came along and changed the marketplace …

3 Signs Your Spouse Suffers From Sex Addiction

If you think about it there is a lot that can go wrong in a marriage. Divorce rates are at the highest point they’ve ever been. Something that people don’t often realize is that sex addiction can cause marital distress, and eventually divorce, if it isn’t treated. Here are three ways to find out if your spouse is addicted to …

How Dangerous Is Your Porn Addiction?

Addiction can kill. Anyone who has ever watched a family member or friend succumbs to alcoholism, or overdose on drugs can tell you that. Yet, when talking about porn addiction, many people see it as less serious and less deadly. Certainly, there is more inherent risk in sharing needles than there is in opening a porn website in the privacy …

Power and Sex Addiction: What Hollywood Scandals Are Telling Us

With the flood of sexual harassment and abuse stories coming out of Hollywood recently, you might think the phone of a sex and porn addiction counselor would be ringing off the hook as hundreds of people call in to seek help. Personally, I’d like to see that happening, because it would be a sign that these men are waking up …

I Married A Sex Addict

Sex sells. I know this first hand. I modeled for bikini calendars. I did photo shoots in lingerie and tiny bikinis to sell men’s magazines. I worked at promotional events in barely-there, cleavage-showing outfits in order to attract male clientele. I was that woman in the magazines that boyfriends and husbands would lust after. I didn’t care because I was …

Self-Criticism vs Self-Compassion

Examining your sexual compulsive behavior, you may find that negative feelings often drive the need to act out sexually. Kind of makes sense, doesn’t it? If you’re feeling lousy it’s a natural reaction to search for other things to cope or deal with those feelings so you can opt to escape and feel better—even if it’s just for the short …