Porn at Work is Costing You Money and Opportunities

Porn addiction is becoming a major problem at work.  Technology is a mission critical tool for both work and pleasure and the lines are blurring every day.  Gone are the days when your work phone was actually located at work. More and more of my clients are struggling with porn addiction or compulsion, even under the threat of termination.  This …

Living With Someone Who Does Not Seem Interested In YOU?

I have a few hard questions for you to think about: Are you in a relationship that is not healthy for you? Are you scared of intimacy or of being alone? (Maybe you’re scared of both.) Do you believe that deep down you are really a terribly flawed human being who doesn’t deserve to be anything but sad, lonely, and …

Is Sex Addiction Really Just A Myth?

Sex addiction. Each word evokes complex thoughts, images, and responses. Put the two together and there is the possibility for controversy and confusion. Is sex addiction real or is it just the latest cop-out for bad behavior? Dr. David Ley is garnering attention investigating precisely that question. He’s advocating that sex addiction is a myth. Unfortunately for many who are …

Stop Mocking Sex Addicts by George Collins

Dr. Ley, stop trivializing the pain and suffering of sex addicts to promote your book. It’s irresponsible and demonstrates how little you actually know about how sex addicts suffer and the stranglehold their compulsion has on them, let alone the increasing weight of science supporting a sex addiction diagnosis. Sex addiction, or whatever you want to call it, Doctor, is ruining …

Sex Addiction is Not a Myth

Dr. David Ley’s article called the “The Comforting Fiction of Sex Addiction” reads like, well, . . . fiction.  In it he talks about what he calls “the myth of sex addiction” which to me is, well, . . . a myth. In fact, little in Dr. Ley’s sex addict bashing tome reflects my reality as a counselor for sex …

Let’s Talk About Money

The holidays often bring up a lot of stressors for couples. One of the most common challenges couples face during the holiday season comes down to dollars and cents, particularly so when your financial viewpoint differs from your partner. Thinking about money or your finances during the holidays, with gift buying, entertaining and travel, can be stressful Too often couples …

Dealing With SEX With My Sexually Addicted Partner

A BIG question that I often hear from women who are in relationship with a sex addict is: “How do I deal with sex while my partner is recovering from his sex addiction?” There are probably a lot of questions swirling in your head right now. It’s a lot to deal with. You may be asking yourself—  “Should I even …

Partner to a Sex Addict? It’s NOT Your Fault (No Matter What Michelle Duggar Says)

Michelle Duggar, the matriarch of “19 Kids and Counting” fame recently released a statement about her son that left many people scratching their heads. We can never know what someone is truly thinking, but her statement appears to be blaming her daughter-in-law for the sex and porn addiction struggles her son Josh is currently going through. While I don’t get …

Here’s Why The Porn Industry Went After Ken Bone

If you watched the second Presidential Debate, you probably noticed a man in a red sweater by the name of Ken Bone. He is a worker at a coal manufacturing plant, and he had a question about energy conservation. His pleasant manner immediately endeared him to audiences all across the country, and almost as soon as the debates were over, …

Your Sex or Porn Addiction: How Bad Does It Have to Get Before You Get Help?

We try to avoid politics, and we’ll do that in today’s blog, but if you’ve turned on a TV or opened a browser window at all in the past week, you’ve surely heard the ongoing stories about Jeffrey Epstein. There are pages and pages already out there about this individual, and we don’t need to rehash it here, but no matter …

When Porn Victimizes Women – The TSA Scandal

Recently, there was a story in the news about a TSA agent who was suspended from his job after he was observed using his phone to take up-skirt videos of unsuspecting women in the airport where he worked. After his supervisors were tipped off to this behavior, they observed him secretly recording women as he stood behind and beneath them …

Talking to Kids About Sex and Porn (You’re Doing it Wrong)

 Modern parents have a lot to talk about with their kids when it comes to sex, porn, and relationships. Here’s how to do that in a healthy, positive way. I want to start off with a statistic I’ve observed in my work with porn addicts: only about 1 out of every 10 guys I talk to ever got the “sex …

Anthony Weiner: Sex Addiction Needs More than Talk Therapy

  Anthony Weiner has found himself back in the spotlight in recent days, thanks to yet another sexting scandal. A memory refresher: Anthony Weiner was a congressman who first found himself in trouble back in 2011, when a picture of a man in his underwear was sent out from his Twitter account. After a few days of evading the press, …

Here’s Why Ozzy Needs Such Intense Sex Addiction Therapy

  On a recent episode of The Talk, Sharon Osbourne spoke openly about her husband Ozzy’s sex addiction. Not only did she confirm that he is grappling with sexually compulsive behavior, but she mentioned an intense rehab therapy regimen he is following. During his tours, he will be seeing therapists in an outpatient capacity for three months, but when his …

Is Porn “Killing” Parts of Your Life?

Recently, a story surfaced out of the Midwest about the driver of a tractor-trailer who caused a fatal accident while possibly watching porn videos on his cell phone. Now, seeing as how he hasn’t gone to trial yet, this is all still alleged, but I bring it up because it’s not the first time I’ve heard about something like this …

Porn Addiction: A Few Short Term Solutions to Recovery

Recovery from sex and porn addictions certainly takes some time in getting well and breaking the habit of acting out sexually. We can look at recovery in two phases — short-term and long-term. Short-term recovery may be viewed as getting the behavior to a degree of manageability and control while longer-term examines the deeper, underlying causes that caused the addiction …

man experiencing the benefits of quitting porn

Sex Addiction and Happiness

When you act out sexually, are you ever really happy? Maybe? What if you think of happiness as before, during AND after? I worked with a return client recently who had completely stopped his sexual addictive behavior and when I asked him what the difference was for him this time around in treatment, he reflected and shared this revelation with …

Confessions of a Porn Zombie

“Poooooooooorrrrrrn . . . . . Pooooorrrrrrrrrrrrrrnnnn ….. Porrrnnnnnnnn ….” . . . I grunted as my lifeless corpse limped closer to what it needed most. Shuffling, slow, and primal I fixed my gaze on the “food” glowing off my computer screen, . . . calling me . . . I called back, “poooorrrrrrrnnnn.”  Now sweating, my heart beating faster …