No More Sex In The City for My Sex Addict Hubby

I’ve been married for several years and thought my husband had lost his libido just from getting older. After all, he was 48 year old when we got married. Before the wedding we had sex regularly, but afterwards it almost disappeared. Even when we first were together he was never all that sexually assertive, so when I discovered porn on …

Transforming Sex Addiction & Shame Into Loving Life

I was a porn addict but I found my out and now live a pretty spectacular life. I remember my first experience with pornography. I was probably 6-years-old and staying the night at a friend’s house. His father had a collection of porn magazines. That night we hid a couple of magazines under our pillows before going to sleep. I can’t even …

My Addict Chased the Blonde in the Beemer

With sex addiction sometimes it’s difficult to know when your addict self is in self control. In fact, you may be driving down the road, feeling fine, and run headlong into an addictive stranglehold. This is a story that happened to me when I was a sex addict and was definitely out of control. This story is from Chapter 6 …

Do You Want to Break the Cycle of Sex Addiction and Porn Addiction-Watch this Video by George Collins, M.A.

In his practice with hundreds of clients over 20 years, George Collins, a former sex addict, has developed techniques to successfully teach sex addicts to confront the negative energy that fuels the addiction and turn that energy into positive life changes, including true intimacy. Breaking the Cycle puts Collins’ proven approach into easily-digestible chapters that are lessons in change, with …

Porn at Work is Costing You Money and Opportunities

Porn addiction is becoming a major problem at work.  Technology is a mission critical tool for both work and pleasure and the lines are blurring every day.  Gone are the days when your work phone was actually located at work. More and more of my clients are struggling with porn addiction or compulsion, even under the threat of termination.  This …

Living With Someone Who Does Not Seem Interested In YOU?

I have a few hard questions for you to think about: Are you in a relationship that is not healthy for you? Are you scared of intimacy or of being alone? (Maybe you’re scared of both.) Do you believe that deep down you are really a terribly flawed human being who doesn’t deserve to be anything but sad, lonely, and …

Is Sex Addiction Really Just A Myth?

Sex addiction. Each word evokes complex thoughts, images, and responses. Put the two together and there is the possibility for controversy and confusion. Is sex addiction real or is it just the latest cop-out for bad behavior? Dr. David Ley is garnering attention investigating precisely that question. He’s advocating that sex addiction is a myth. Unfortunately for many who are …

Stop Mocking Sex Addicts by George Collins

Dr. Ley, stop trivializing the pain and suffering of sex addicts to promote your book. It’s irresponsible and demonstrates how little you actually know about how sex addicts suffer and the stranglehold their compulsion has on them, let alone the increasing weight of science supporting a sex addiction diagnosis. Sex addiction, or whatever you want to call it, Doctor, is ruining …

Sex Addiction is Not a Myth

Some have called sex addiction just a myth. Is that accurate? My practice and my life is filled with hundreds of brave men and women (mostly men) who realize that compulsive pornography and sex is ruining their lives. Many who see me have either lost their spouses, jobs, children, obscene amounts of money. Some are near suicide. Many have been …

Let’s Talk About Money

The holidays often bring up a lot of stressors for couples. One of the most common challenges couples face during the holiday season comes down to dollars and cents, particularly so when your financial viewpoint differs from your partner. Thinking about money or your finances during the holidays, with gift buying, entertaining and travel, can be stressful Too often couples …

Dealing With SEX With My Sexually Addicted Partner

A BIG question that I often hear from women who are in relationship with a sex addict is: “How do I deal with sex while my partner is recovering from his sex addiction?” There are probably a lot of questions swirling in your head right now. It’s a lot to deal with. You may be asking yourself—  “Should I even …

Partner to a Sex Addict? It’s NOT Your Fault (No Matter What Michelle Duggar Says)

Michelle Duggar, the matriarch of “19 Kids and Counting” fame recently released a statement about her son that left many people scratching their heads. We can never know what someone is truly thinking, but her statement appears to be blaming her daughter-in-law for the sex and porn addiction struggles her son Josh is currently going through. While I don’t get …

Here’s Why The Porn Industry Went After Ken Bone

If you watched the second Presidential Debate, you probably noticed a man in a red sweater by the name of Ken Bone. He is a worker at a coal manufacturing plant, and he had a question about energy conservation. His pleasant manner immediately endeared him to audiences all across the country, and almost as soon as the debates were over, …

Your Sex or Porn Addiction: How Bad Does It Have to Get Before You Get Help?

We try to avoid politics, and we’ll do that in today’s blog, but if you’ve turned on a TV or opened a browser window at all in the past week, you’ve surely heard the ongoing stories about Jeffrey Epstein. There are pages and pages already out there about this individual, and we don’t need to rehash it here, but no matter …

When Porn Victimizes Women – The TSA Scandal

Recently, there was a story in the news about a TSA agent who was suspended from his job after he was observed using his phone to take up-skirt videos of unsuspecting women in the airport where he worked. After his supervisors were tipped off to this behavior, they observed him secretly recording women as he stood behind and beneath them …

Talking to Kids About Sex and Porn (You’re Doing it Wrong)

 Modern parents have a lot to talk about with their kids when it comes to sex, porn, and relationships. Here’s how to do that in a healthy, positive way. I want to start off with a statistic I’ve observed in my work as a sex addiction therapist: only about 1 out of every 10 guys I talk to ever got …