If something seems amiss in your sexual relationship with your partner, it’s possible that he is compulsively using internet porn or sexual connection with others in a destructive way and may need help with porn addiction. There are warning signs you might see if your partner is having a problem with sexual compulsive behavior:
1. He may spend a lot of private time on his computer, his phone, or at work. Working long hours could be a cover for sexual compulsive behavior like viewing of internet porn. When you notice your partner is on the computer, he may turn it off or flip to another page. He may set up secret or hidden email accounts. He also may hide his cell phone to avoid your detection of his phone calls or text messages.
2. In general, his demeanor may change. You may notice that he’s acting differently. He may become more secretive, private, unreliable, critical, or irritable. He might not be as social as he used to be and there may be unexplained absences. You may feel like you don’t get straight answers anymore.
3. You may experience a lack of connection and intimacy. Your partner may not seem available to you and you may feel he’s avoiding you. He seems tuned out or lost.
4. Your sexual interactions with your partner may change. Your partner may become uncharacteristically demanding or rough sexually. He may require more and more stimulation or he may become unresponsive sexually and cease initiating sex. He may develop a preference for masturbation.
5. His relationship with his body may change. He may become overly concerned with his penis — with caring for, touching, adjusting his pants, or exposing his anatomy.
6. Money might become an issue in your relationship. If he is spending money on porn, prostitutes, or other illicit hypersexualization behaviors, there may be a lack of funds or unexplained expenses.
7. He may be sexually unfaithful . Not every sexual betrayal is a sign of sexual addictions, however, if your partner is engaging sexually with another or others and is not stopping, even if he says he wants to, he probably has an issue with sexual compulsion.
Unfortunately, there is no magically revealing or definitive list that will let you know without question that your partner has an issue and needs sex addiction help. You may see all of these signs, other signs, or none of them. These behaviors could point to other addictions or other issues, or they could point to an affair.
However, it is true that if your partner’s sexual behaviors are causing stress to your relationship, to his connection to friends and loved ones, or to his work, then sexual addictions could be a problem. If his instinctive desire for sexual activity is overriding his capacity to regulate those impulses in a way that is preventing connection and intimacy, then there is a problem.
The difficulty with any addictive behavior is that ultimately it does not provide the desired relief or reward. Addiction creates an internal war. Life does not work. Ultimately, you can never get enough of what won’t satisfy you.
If you or someone you love are struggling with sexual compulsive behavior, reach out to the experts at Neulia Compulsion Solutions for sex addiction help.