SELF-TEST
Sex and Love Addiction: 24 Questions for Self-Diagnosis
The following questions are designed to be used as guidelines to identifying possible signposts of sex and love addiction. They are not intended to provide a sure-fire method of diagnosis, nor can negative answers to these questions provide absolute assurance that the illness is not present. Many sex and love addicts have varying patterns which can result in very different ways of approaching and answering these questions. Despite this fact, we have found that short, to-the-point questions have often provided as effective a tool for self-diagnosis as have lengthy explanations of what sex and love addiction is. We appreciate that the diagnosis of sex and love addiction is a matter that needs to be both very serious and very private. We hope that these questions will prove helpful.
- Have you ever tried to control how much sex to have or how often you would see someone?
- Do you feel secretive about your sexual activities? Do you feel you need to hide these activities from others-friends, family, co-workers, counselors, etc.?
- Do you get "high" from sex? Do you crash?
- Have you had sex at inappropriate times, in inappropriate places, and/or with inappropriate people?
- Do you make promises to yourself or make rules for yourself concerning your sexual behavior that you find you cannot follow?
- Have you ever felt that you had to have sex or masturbate?
- Have you lost count of the number of sexual partners you've had or porn sites you’ve visited?
- Have you or do you have sex regardless of the consequences (e.g. the threat of being caught, the risk of contracting herpes, gonorrhea, AIDS , etc.)?
- Have you ever threatened your financial stability or standing in the community by your compulsive sexual activites?
- Have you ever had a serious relationship threatened or destroyed because of outside sexual activity?
- Do you find yourself flirting or sexualizing with someone even if you do not mean to?
- Has your sexually compulsive behvior affected your reputation?
- Do you have sex and/or "relationships" to try to deal with, or escape from life's problems?
- Do you feel uncomfortable about your masturbation because of the frequency with which you masturbate, the fantasies you engage in, the props you use, and/or the places in which you do it?
- Do you engage in the practice of voyeurism, exhibitionism, etc., in ways that bring discomfort and pain to you or others?
- Do you find yourself needing greater and greater variety and energy in your compulsive sexual activities just to achieve an "acceptable" level of physical and emotional relief?
- Are you unable to concentrate or fulfill your life potential because of thoughts or feelings you are having regarding your compulsive sexual behavior?
- Do you find yourself obsessing about a specific person or sexual act even though these thoughts bring pain, craving or discomfort?
- Have you ever wished you could stop or control your compulsive sexual activities for a given period of time?
- Do you find the pain in your life increasing no matter what you do? Are you afraid that deep down you are unacceptable?
- Do you feel that your compulsive sexual life affects your spiritual life in a negative way?
- Do you feel that your life is unmanageable because of your compulsive sexual behavior?
- Have you ever thought that there might be more you could do with your life if you were not so driven by your compulsive sexual and behavior?
24. Are you ready to start your recovery from sexual addiction?
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- Authors of "Breaking the Cycle: Free Yourself from Sex Addiction, Porn Obsession, and Shame" (Published October 2011 from New Harbinger Publications)
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